Can We Change People?

Part of my teaching is that you cannot change people. What you can do is change your perception of them and they will pick this up and respond on a subconscious level. And like it or not, we are greatly influenced and can become as others see us unless we make the effort to project to others what we desire to project. “Beaming” instructions here…

Can We Change People?

There was a class of “challenged” children and many teachers were brought in over time but each one ended up quitting in frustration. Finally, a teacher was brought in and a miracle happened. That class of students ended up becoming a group of happy, well-behaved and very good students. What happened?

From the time that teacher entered the classroom, she refused to see the children as they appeared to others. She saw through and beyond appearances. She instead saw in her mind’s eye each student as a well-behaved, perfect student. She saw only their potential and perfection and they became exactly as she envisioned.

We Can Change Our Perception

Part of my teaching is that you cannot change people. What you can do is change your perception of them. When you envision them as you want them to be, in their happy and best state, they will respond on a subconscious level. In my own life, I have used this principle to great advantage. I would imagine someone being receptive and in my mind’s eye see them harmonizing with me. I would imagine them being happy or pleased or whatever and “hear” them expressing what I would like to hear.

Of course, we only want to envision the highest and the best for someone. We don’t impose our will on someone else, but we can lift them in consciousness to their own highest good by maintaining that image in our thoughts and feelings. This releases the other person and allows adjustments to be made on a mental and spiritual level. Releasing is powerful. When we loose and let go, amazing things happen. There will either be a noticeable change in the person or that person will peacefully move out of our lives if they are not supposed to be there for our highest good.

Remember this principle: It is our job to see and feel the end result. It is the Universe’s job to get us there.

You Might Be Surprised

I have had students apply this principle and see changes in their spouses, friends, clients, co-workers and others. I’m proud of the marriages saved by teaching my students to apply these principles to their spouses. A very difficult mother-in-law situation was turned around in just a couple of weeks. But I didn’t know — until my student posted a testimonial — that this problem had existed for 15 years! You can read her testimonial here — she cleverly called it “Dismantling Fort Knox.”

Don’t laugh, but I have even used this on inanimate objects and it worked! The answers come when we loosen up.

Like it or not, we are greatly influenced and can become as others see us (and “feel” us). We do pick up their thoughts subconsciously. In the area of marketing, we must make the effort to project to others what we desire to project — as this determines the feedback and results we attract. Or else we will subconsciously respond to their unwanted ideas about us. This carries over into our personal lives. I have seen people who could not move forward because of the image of them held by those who were close to them. It took concerted effort to shift their consciousness beyond what others thought so they could finally succeed. And then of course there is the opposite. Many have succeeded because someone else believed in them and saw a greater potential than they saw for themselves. I am profoundly grateful for loving people in my life who saw my own potential when I doubted myself.

Try It… You’ll Like It

Wouldn’t it be an interesting experiment to change our perceptions about a difficult person in our business life — a client, partner, co-worker, boss — or in our personal life — a spouse, partner, relative, child — and see what happens?

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain to put this principle into practice and see what happens. Instead of imagining things as they are, which I am sorry to say will only perpetuate more of the same, start imagining the person or situation as you want them to be. Listen up, husbands and wives (parents, too). Remember Marilyn’s rule for relationships: the more you criticize, the more you will have to criticize.

Give thanks for the end result. Use the powerful gratitude principle combined with affirmative (scientific) prayer to turn those situations around by expressing gratitude for the solutions before they appear. Bringing the desired result into the “now” moment by using the gratitude principle speeds our desired good to us.